Funny isn't it? how we learn to hook up with girls and we get results, yet when we really like a girl we think twice about what to do. Still we know what we should do, but we get affraid that she'll reject us so we hesitate and end up messing everything up.
I've never met a guy that's not familiar with that situation, even those that usually get all the girls have confessed being completely clueless towards the girls they want the most and end up loosing them.
Whoever tells you that you'll be 100% free of that feeling is full of bullshit, maybe through experience you'll eventually get it to some lower degree but it will still show up sometimes. And I'm glad it does, it's what keeps this mysterious and exiting.
Unfortunately for those having trouble with this situation, there's no right answer to be found but there are certain steps or guidelines that can help you better than others.
Unfortunately for those having trouble with this situation, there's no right answer to be found but there are certain steps or guidelines that can help you better than others.
- First remember that if you don't risk anything you don't win anything either, you'll ultimately have to risk loosing her in order to get her, if you get murky and hesitate too much she'll probably move on.
- Always keep it genuine and don't try to rush things up, you still should be leading but don't overdo it.
- When getting serious with a girl we tend to increase the time we talk over msn, sms etc... be careful with msn since a message can be easily misunderstood, personally I don't even ask for the msn address of a girl I'm very into. (but that might be just me)
- Don't let the spark of the relationship die, keep the sexual tension going on, I know you guys know how to, and eventually get to the part where you tell her you like her and want to hook up with her. Have the courage to share your feelings and open up.
- But most importantly have fun and enjoy your time with her, BE IN THE MOMENT, don't over-think what to do you really want to feel the genuine energy that connected the both of you in the first place.
As I said those are just guidelines and are not absolute trues by far, however I do believe the last point is one to keep in mind.
Hope this helps you guys out there who are having a bit of trouble getting together with the women you really want.
