Make shit happen, live your life!

         This week's post is written by a fellow Sexual Gentleman as I had anticipated in my last writing. I leave now with my good friend Tac who'll be talking with you about one of my favorite topics ever: Go out there and make some shit happen! God damned we only live once and we'd better live our life to the fullest! take some risks, go for gold and enjoy every moment you live, it's your Birthright! 

Enough said let's get Tac on stage!

 Make shit happen, live your life!

It is within us to survive. This is instinct. You see it from the highest predator to the lowest prey. Everything will flee danger. Everything wants to survive. But how many of us want to live? I mean really live. Not exist. Not survive. Not work some shitty nine to five job to get by. No. Really live. Experience life. I often hear people complaining about their situation. They complain about how they don't like their job, or their house, or their spouse. I have a saying that I often tell people like this, “Don't like your situation? Make shit happen.” Apart from the young and sometimes the elderly, anyone can change their situation. Many of you have seen this and may have had it happen to you. When you got into this community, what were you looking for? Most likely more success with women. While you may not be there yet, you have probably seen a change. This is irrefutable proof that you can change your situation.
I want you to ask yourself a few questions. Do you believe in some form of life after death, whether a “heaven” or reincarnation or anything else? And also, do you believe that entrance (or advancement in the case of reincarnation) in this life after death depends on moral decisions made in this life? Third, are you living the life that you want to live? If you answered “No” to either of the first two and the third, I have a question for you. Why? If you don't believe in life after death then you believe this is the only life you get. Why the hell wouldn't you make it the best it could be? And if you believe that acceptance or advancement in this life after death is not influenced by moral decisions made in this life, you also have no reason to not live the life you want. Now, if you answered yes to the second question but no to the third, there is still hope for you. While I don't want to bash any particular religion I will say this: Most religions keep us in the chains of what old, white, dead men considered right.

No one can be held responsible for your life, they are too busy living theirs. As far as we can prove, we all have just one life to live. Why would anyone want to spend any of this one life feeling unhappy? If you aren't happy in your situation, do something about it. Break it off with your lover or quit your job. Do what it takes! Take some time and stop worrying about them and worry about you. I don't go to the gym to look better because I worry about what people think of me, I go because I have one life to live. I want to live this life as much as I can. I want to experience everything. If I die without some of these experiences, I will die happy with the knowledge that I tried. You have to strive to be the best you that you can be. Don't do this for other people because you will surely fail. Do this for you, so that you can be happy, so that you don't have to survive, so that you can live.

 I want you to turn this computer off right now and go make shit happen. Stop existing. Start living! 

Lead...as told by Subaroo

One humble man gave me the most simple and probable most useful advice back in early 2009. His message was simple, drop all this meaningless theories and LEAD or in his words:

I have a theory that all this pickup stuff comes down to leading. leading by telling her that you like her and what you want to do about it. As long as the girl likes you (i.e. approves of you vs. disapproves) she will follow your lead for anything. if you lead her into sexual talk, she will follow cause she likes you. if you lead her into frendship zone, she will follow cause she likes you. girls will rarely take the inititive to steer the interaction, especially into the sexual realm.. thats why some of us guys in the community only got a few girls in hs, we got the ones that liked us enough to lead us into a relationship because we were too lame to do it ourselves. 

Subaroo

 Ever since that day I stopped blaming other people, (and fate, bad luck or whatever else you might believe in) and I took responsibility for my own failures.


Today I can only say I completely share his opinion, as long as you're leading your life in the direction you want you can't go wrong, if you want a sexual relationship with a woman (and by sexual I don't mean sex I mean intimate) then you have to lead it there. However this leading philosophy also applies to  any social activity you try (namely social groups, close friends, work companions...).

I just talked about taking responsibility about our failures, that's very important but the way we see failure is just as important! Actually failure isn't an obstacle, an end line or an indicator that you're just not made to succeed, it will only mean it if you let it mean it.
Failure is a learning experience, one that we have to go through repeatedly to achieve success! Actually the best teacher you'll find out there (and the best one I've found) is named "Trial & Error", I still take my most important lessons from him... but that's a topic that deserves a post for itself and that post will be coming soon!

I've also got a series of guest bloggers, most of them are fellow Sexual Gentlemen so stay tuned for some great articles!

Jude
Sexual Gentleman & Dark Horse