why? Because last thursday when I went pay a visit to HB Sexy and she warmly said hello to me, then there was big kinoing but unfortunately i was feeling out of state and without realizing I went to play "hard to get" and I'm all about being genuine and reciprocating interest, specially when I'm in the sexual stage of the relationship!
Thing is early in the conversation she told me she felt alone and didn't wanted to go to her place that night all alone, now because of being out of state (and okay because I didn't expected her to want sex this early, it was after all just the second meeting) I misunderstood what she meant and told her it's ok being alone and that she had me, things will get better yada yada yada...
Now after telling this story to a girl friend I can now look backwards and I can see that after this she got a little less interested, and she started giving me some shit like "why don't you look at me when I dance for you? Am I not sexy enough for you?"
And now she's flaked on me, I though it was because that "playing hard to get attitude" but now I realize it's because I ignored her insinuation, that may have disappointed her, or made her thing I'm just an innocent boy or who knows... what I know is that it took the interest away from her.
In my defense however I want to point it was 2nd day I met her at the bar and wasn't expecting the relation to go sexual, my logistics wouldn't have even aloud it, but I should have been ready for it and use these logistics to boost the sexual tension and simply postpose sex for later
Now I've experienced what PUGs say, A woman get's offended when you don't make move so now that I learned it the hard way I can only say to every guy reading this....
MAKE A MOVE!!!!!!!!
Jude
This is so true, I had the same thing when dating a girl. I can't recall if she made any particular comments to get me to make a move on her but I think a few of them were meant to make me touch her.
ReplyDeleteAlas, she ditched me after a few dates without making a move. However she did re-open contact recently (like three weeks later) so I am hoping to get to see her again and trying to go for a move then. Time will tell.
-Beider
I love to hear you got a second chance, now that you know your mistake I'm sure you'll make a move now.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the comment
Jude